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 Which wedding traditions should you include in your day?

 The old, new, unique and emerging trends we are seeing on the South Coast explained:

 Eleven Eighty is a paradox.  Being a heritage listed venue we love the history of the property and are sympathetic to the traditions and stories of days gone past.  However, we are also “the venue with a twist” and adore anything unique and different and silently applaud our couples when they put their own twist and individual stamp on their big day.

When it comes to the old and new traditions for your wedding day – we say “do you”…….there are no rules.  If the old traditions strike a chord, then it can be meaningful to incorporate them into your day.  But don’t be scared to follow your own path and set new traditions for others to follow.

Ever wondered where the most popular wedding traditions came from?  We’ve got all you need to know on the old traditions and the new, unique, and emerging trends.

  1. Something Old, New, Borrowed and Blue. Brides carry or wear something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue on their wedding day. The “something old” symbolizes ties to the past; “something new” represents a bright future ahead; “something borrowed” is a transfer of happiness from a long-married couple to the newlyweds; “something blue” is a symbol of purity.
  2. Wearing a Veil. Ancient Greeks and Romans thought the wedding veil protected the bride from evil spirits.  Brides have worn veils ever since.  Veils were also used during the time of arranged marriages to hide the bride’s appearance until the very last minute (in case the Groom to be changed his mind!)  I wore a veil to walk down the isle 20 years ago, but have noted that the majority of our brides at Eleven Eighty have opted to go without.
  3. White wedding dress: In many societies, the colour white has long been associated with purity and virtue.  Queen Victoria wore white at her wedding in 1840 (prior to which it was quite usual for brides to wear a multitude of colours) and popularized the wearing of white.  Today traditional white ball gowns are no longer the norm. Brides are increasingly opting for unique styles to walk down the aisle allowing brides to express their own personality and put comfort first.  Here is one of my favourite “unique” dresses from an Eleven Eighty Wedding.
  4. Seeing each other before the wedding. This superstition dates to the time of arranged marriages, when people believed that if the couple saw each other before the ceremony, it would give them a chance to change their minds about the wedding. Today, however, many couples choose to meet up for a “first look” and even have portrait sessions before saying their “I dos.”
  5. Rain on your wedding day. In Australia there is fear of so much as a drop of rain falling on your wedding day but in some cultures, rain on your big day is sought after as it symbolizes fertility and cleansing.   With the amount of rain that South Coast Wedding venues have seen over recent years, if this superstition is true we must be due a population explosion!
  6. Carrying the Bride over the Threshold. This superstition began in Medieval Europe where many believed that a bride was extra vulnerable to evil spirits through the soles of her feet. To avoid bringing in any evil spirits, the groom carried the bride into their new home.  Today this custom is less of a superstition and more a great photo opportunity!
  7. Using Your Married Name Before the Wedding. Some think it is tempting fate for the bride to write out her married name or monogram before she’s married, and that the wedding will not take place if she does so. If you’re superstitious, save the monogramming for your reception decor and registry items. (That’s if you intend to change your name as many ladies these days choose to keep their maiden name)
  8. Ringing Bells. Bells are traditionally chimed at Irish weddings to keep evil spirits away and to ensure a harmonious family life. Some Irish brides even carry small bells in their bouquets as a reminder of their sacred wedding vows, and they are a common gift for newly weds.  At Eleven Eighty we have the old school bell that many couples have chosen to incorporate in their day.
  9. Best day to marry. In English tradition, Wednesday is considered the “best day” to marry, although Monday is for wealth and Tuesday is for health. Saturday is the unluckiest wedding day, according to English folklore.  Interesting that in modern times, Saturday is the most popular day to get married, however at Eleven Eighty we are seeing a surge in mid-week weddings.
  10. Engagement and wedding rings are traditionally worn on the fourth finger of the left hand because it was once thought that a vein in that finger led directly to the heart.
  11. Wedding Cakes: The tradition of a wedding cake comes from ancient Rome, where revelers broke a loaf of bread over a bride’s head for fertility’s sake. The custom of tiered cakes emerged from a game where the bride and groom attempted to kiss over an ever-higher cake without knocking it over. The cake cutting used to be done by the bride only, to symbolize her virginity and future fertility.  Nowadays, the couple participates in the cake cutting as a duo, representing their setting up a home together and caring for each other.  Today’s weddings anything goes from cakes made entirely out of cheese wheels to cupcakes and donut displays.
  12. Bridesmaids served as decoys for the bride during Ancient Roman times to confuse evil spirits. Some couples these days choose not to have bridesmaids.
  13. In many cultures around the world the hands of a bride and groom are literally tied together to demonstrate the couple’s commitment to each other and their new bond as a married couple giving us the popular phrase “tying the knot”.
  14. The bride stands to the groom’s left during a Christian ceremony, because in bygone days the groom needed his right hand free to fight off other suitors. Can you imagine!
  15. The tradition of the bouquet toss comes from England, where female guests used to try to rip pieces of the bride’s wedding gown and bouquet for good luck. Over time this turned into the bouquet toss, where the bride tosses her bouquet to single female guests, the one who catches it is considered the next to marry.

The great thing about weddings today is that you get to pick and choose which customs (if any) you want to follow, without the fear of repercussions.  Not only that, but you also get to do things your way.  Today couples getting married on the South Coast include their pets on their wedding day (did I mention that Eleven Eighty is pet friendly?).

We’ve seen couples walk down the isle together, stand to sign the register, use sparklers for a spectacular kiss and choose not to have anyone give the bride away.  In terms of new traditions, we are seeing an upsurge in micro weddings (typically mid-week and sub 30 guests).  Many couples are saving their vows for only their closest friends and creating a more intimate experience.  Destination weddings are on the rise.  Why make your celebration only one day, when you and your guests can make a weekend out of it?

 

What new traditions did you incorporate in your special day?

 

 

 

 

 

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Jess D

The unique venue catered for our family requirements and beyond with many personalised details. Every part of the venue was utilised from the train carriage, the on-site accomodation, through to the beautifully decorated bar and iconic tree swing.

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Paulina Acuna

I am in love with Eleven Eighty! Such a great DIY venue with accommodation, a well thought-out layout with different spaces hosting such an eclectic vibe to truly bring out your personality. The Owners & staff are so incredible to work alongside and we love planning & coordinating there. The courtyard is to die for!

Jess – Planned By Page

What a stunning venue, the way the light filters through the surrounding trees into the courtyard in the afternoon is just something else. They have thought of everything here you will need to make your wedding day perfect. Beautiful spaces to get ready in, the most divine settings for your reception and stunning photo opportunities, Eleven Eighty has it all.

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From the moment you enter Eleven Eighty you will be swept up by its character and charm. It really is a wonderland of the unexpected, every turn you take leads you to something more to be discovered. So many incredible options within this special property. The team have worked tirelessly to restore this historical venue with so much love and care.

Candice Seymour

Eleven Eighty has to be the best venue on the south coast for a funky lux wedding or to be honest, any event that you need to be seriously special. The place is like a treasure trove filed with beautiful thoughtfully curated objects and super styled so that every different area is truly unique. There are so many gorgeous settings all just perfectly put together. The vintage train carriage blew me away.

Gaynor Tracey

We fell in love with Eleven Eighty because it’s a super unique venue. We knew we wanted something a little less traditional with a cool, relaxed party vibe and felt that Eleven Eighty really delivered on this. We especially love the courtyard and alfresco dining aspect of the venue and the rustic vibe of the bar.

Rachel Appleby

WOW! An absolute sensory overload from the moment you pull into the driveway, there’s is sooo much to take in! Interesting, eclectic, full of character, it’s almost too much! It’s FANTASTIC! Love it! Just spent 3 nights there for New Years celebrations and what a brilliant time was had, the venue is perfect stage to have an incredible gathering.

David Annett

After visiting Eleven Eighty I was amazed by the effort that was put into every detail to truly capture the unique character and beauty that it has. The owners and manager were very friendly and went above and beyond to accommodate our upcoming event. We are all super excited!!!!

Kylie Brown

Love this beautiful property! Ticks all the boxes for an ideal wedding venue and such a lovely space to style, the courtyard is magical at night to dine and dance under. We love it!

The Wedding and Event Creators

I went to an event at Eleven Eighty, I felt like I was transported back in time. Full of character and history with all the different parts to explore and have fun. It was an unforgettable experience and I look forward to the next time.

Lucy Brown

The most idyllic, tranquil setting that makes you feel relaxed the minute you get there! The property is tastefully decorated, the team are so friendly and the facilities are awesome. Highly recommend it!

Michelle Rubinstein

Grounds of Alexandria meets Soho House meets Alice in Wonderland…… Wow! How did we not know about this place? So incredibly beautiful with hidden treasures and unexpected plot twists around every corner. Riddled with character, old world charm and modern luxury, I really can’t think of an event space that has as much wow factor as this did.

Angie Laxton

We have booked our special day here. We were looking for a venue that could show our personalities, and Eleven Eighty has plenty of that! It is so cute wherever you look. Reanah is super friendly and easy to talk to. She has taken our special day as hers and was super helpful with info and suppliers. I’m so excited about our wedding and spending it here with our families!

Vanessa Vernazza

“We had our wedding at Eleven Eighty in November and it was truly the most magical experience for us and also for all of our guests. The grounds and venue are simply beautiful. Everything is so well maintained and the attention is second to none!”

Phil & Sue - Sydney

“I facilitated a corporate away day for a Sydney-based team, and found the historic and quirky venue was a great experience, with all we needed for a productive and creative day included – even lawn games for brain breaks and team building!”

Anthony - Berry

“An out-of-the-ordinary South Coast getaway with lovely hosts Richard and Clare. They were extremely welcoming and ensured we were well looked after, helping us arrange a private chef and visits to the local attractions.”

Liat Gould - Sydney

“There are some amazing quirks on this property that we absolutely loved; the converted train carriage was fantastic! The house was immaculate and Clare and Richard are amazing, down to earth hosts – we felt well looked after from start to finish.”

Mark Hatnean - Sydney

“Fantastic, a touch of class with an oldy worldy feel. Perfect to escape the city, do nothing at all or go all out and fill your weekend with wineries, ziplining, kayaking and more. Did I mention there’s a train carriage in the garden?!”

Jay Hobson - Sydney
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